Talmud for Moed Katan 47:2
יתבי רבנן קמיה דרב פפא וקאמרי משמיה דשמואל אבל ששימש מטתו בימי אבלו חייב מיתה א"ל רב פפא אסור אתמר ומשמיה דר' יוחנן אתמר
Some Rabbis sitting in the presence of R'Papa reported in the name of Samuel that a mourner who used the conjugal couch during the [seven] days of his mourning is guilty of a mortal offence. Said R'Papa to them, What was reported was that it is 'forbidden', not 'a mortal offence', and in the name of R'Johanan it was reported [and not in the name of Samuel]; and if you heard aught [condemned] in the name of Samuel [as a mortal offence] it was this: 'Said R'Tahlifa B'Abimi, as reporting Samuel, A mourner who did not let his hair grow long and did not rend his clothes is guilty of a mortal offence.
Jerusalem Talmud Moed Katan
Samuel said, PḤZ are obligatory, NTR meritorious242Babli 24a.. Uncovering the head, turning around the tear243One has to wear the kaftan which was torn in honor of the deceased for the entire week (except the Sabbath) but after the funeral the tear should not be seen., turning the couch upright244So it cannot be used., are obligatory. Wearing shoes, sexual relations, washing245These three items are to be read in the negative: Not wearing shoes, not having sexual relations, not bathing., are meritorious. A student of Samuel had sexual relations. Samuel heard, was offended by him, and he died. He said, this was said as legal rule; maybe to be acted on? Rav said, ḤZ are obligatory, PN meritorious. Turning around the tear, turning the bed upright, are obligatory; uncovering the head, wearing shoes, are meritorious. Two of Rebbi’s sons went out, one with his head uncovered having taken off his shoes; the other with his head covered wearing shoes246This proves that Rebbi did not insist in his own family that particular rules should be followed. The case shows that it was not done that a person of rank would be seen in public without having his head wrapped in a kefiyah.. Rebbi Jonah went up to Rebbi Gorion, who came out to him wearing shoes. He said to him, what are you thinking? That one will adopt action from you247To change the general practice in Galilee not to wear shoes during the Seven days of mourning.? One does not learn action from an unimportant personality.
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