לימא תנו לי בעלי ואשמח עמו תנאי היא דתניא המארס את האשה בתולה גובה מאתים ואלמנה מנה מקום שנהגו להחזיר קדושין מחזירין מקום שנהגו שלא להחזיר קדושין אין מחזירין דברי רבי נתן רבי יהודה הנשיא אומר באמת אמרו מקום שנהגו להחזיר מחזירין מקום שנהגו שלא להחזיר אין מחזירין
the seven days of the [wedding] feast<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' And has thus become liable to present the gifts in reciprocation of those he had received.
');"><sup>7</sup></span> but had no opportunity of repaying him<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' His shoshebin, on the occasion of the latter's own marriage.
');"><sup>6</sup></span> before he died.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Hence he must return the gifts to the dead bridegroom's heirs.
');"><sup>8</sup></span>
Tosefta Pesachim
In a place where their custom is to return the betrothal money [if the betrothed man or woman died before the marriage was consummated], they return it. In a place where their custom is not to return the betrothal money, they do not return it. In a place where their custom is to stand up and sit down [for eulogies at a funeral], they stand up and sit down. In a place where their custom is to not do it, they do not do. [Even where the custom is to stand up and sit down for eulogies,] one does not stand up and sit down more than seven times. In a place where their custom is to greet mourners on the Sabbath, they greet them. In a place where their custom is not to greet, they do not greet. In a place where the custom is for the mourners to walk behind the dead [in a funeral procession], they walk [behind them]. In a place where the custom is to not walk, they do not walk. In a place where their custom is to light candles on Yom Kippur Eve, they light candles. In a place where their custom is not to light, they do not light. Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar says, we light [candles] in inns and in mikvehs [on Yom Kippur Eve]. Those of whom it was said "they light," and those of whom it was said, "they do not light," they only said it in order [that people not become] accustomed to sin.
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