Commentary for Kiddushin 116:14
<big><strong>גמ׳</strong></big> האומר לחבירו צא וקדש תנא מה שעשה עשוי אלא שנהג בו מנהג רמאות ותנא דידן הלך נמי דקתני הלך ברמאות
<big><b>MISHNAH: </b></big>IF HE SAYS TO HIS NEIGHBOUR, 'GO FORTH AND BETROTH ME SUCH A WOMAN,' AND HE GOES AND BETROTHS HER TO HIMSELF, SHE IS BETROTHED TO THE SECOND. LIKEWISE, IF HE SAYS TO A WOMAN, 'BE THOU BETROTHED UNTO ME AFTER THIRTY DAYS,' AND ANOTHER COMES AND BETROTHS HER WITHIN THE THIRTY DAYS, SHE IS BETROTHED TO THE SECOND: THUS AN ISRAELITE'S DAUGHTER [BETROTHED] TO A PRIEST MAY EAT TERUMAH.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Because she is certainly betrothed to him.');"><sup>16</sup></span>
Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
The agent’s act is valid and the woman is betrothed to him, but he has not done the honorable thing. Indeed he has been deceptive. One might say that from this mishnah one learns a lesson—when something is really important to you, try to get it done yourself.
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