Commentary for Kiddushin 91:2
איתמר קטנה שנתקדשה שלא לדעת אביה אמר רב בין היא ובין אביה יכולין לעכב ורב אסי אמר אביה ולא היא איתיביה רב הונא לרב אסי ואמרי לה חייא בר רב לרב אסי (שמות כב, טז) אם מאן ימאן אביה אין לי אלא אביה היא עצמה מנין ת"ל אם מאן ימאן מ"מ
Because she was treated as an orphan during her father's lifetime.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Since her father saw her becoming betrothed and married, and did not protest, he must either have renounced his authority over her or tacitly consented, for otherwise he would not have maintained silence so long.');"><sup>2</sup></span> It was stated: If a minor became betrothed without her father's knowledge: Rab said: Both she and her father can repudiate [it]. R'Assi said: Her father, but not she herself.
Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
Rav argues that either her father or she can prevent the marriage. Essentially, since her father did not agree, the betrothal is simply not valid. But R. Assi would argue that only her father can undo the marriage, not she.
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Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
The verse from Exodus refers to a case where a man had sex with a young virgin without her father’s permission (the rabbis call this a case of seduction). The Torah says that the father can refuse the marriage. The rabbis add that the girl can as well. This is analogous to a case where a girl was betrothed without her father’s consent. Even if she originally consented, she may revoke it at a later period.
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