Commentary for Kiddushin 99:3
אלא מסיפא וכן אתה מוצא בגיטי נשים ושחרורי עבדים כופין אותו עד שיאמר רוצה אני ואמאי הא בלביה לא ניחא ליה אלא לאו משום דאמרינן דברים שבלב אינן דברים ודלמא שאני התם משום דמצוה לשמוע דברי חכמים
He is compelled, until he declares, 'I am willing'. Yet why, seeing that in his heart he is unwilling! Hence it must surely be because we rule; A mental affirmation is not recognised! - But perhaps it is different there, for we ourselves are witnesses that he is pleased to gain atonement.
Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
The Talmud now tries to derive the principle from the second half of the same mishnah which states that the court can force a husband to divorce his wife or free his slave in cases where the court compels him to do so. But again, this is rejected. Although he says he does not want to divorce his wife, it is a mitzvah to listen to the court.
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