Related for Ketubot 23:8
<big><strong>גמ׳</strong></big> מדקתני האוכל מכלל דאיכא דוכתא ביהודה נמי דלא אכיל אמר אביי ש"מ ביהודה נמי מקומות מקומות יש כדתניא א"ר יהודה ביהודה בראשונה היו מייחדין את החתן ואת הכלה שעה אחת קודם כניסתן לחופה כדי שיהא לבו גס בה ובגליל לא היו עושין כן
GEMARA. Since it says in the Mishnah “one who eats”, it follows that there are places also in Judea where one does not eat. Abaye said: Conclude from this that in Judea, too, there are different places [with different customs]. As it was taught: R. Judah said: In earlier times in Judea they used to leave the bridegroom and the bride alone one hour before their entry into the bridal chamber, so that he may become intimate with her, but in Galilee they did not do so.
Tosefta Ketubot
Said Rabbi Yehudah: In the old days in Judea, they used to investigate the groom and the bride for 3 days before the marriage; but in Galilee they did not do this. In the old days in Judea, they used to seclude the groom and the bride one moment before the marriage in order that he should desire her; but in Galilee they did not do this. In the old days in Judea, they used to set up two wedding guest guards, one from the groom's house and one from the bride's house (but even so they would only set them up for marriage); but in Galilee, they did not do this. In the old days in Judea, the wedding guest guards would sleep in the place where the groom and bride slept; but in Galilee they did not do this. Anyone who does not practice according to this [i.e. their appropriate, local] custom cannot claim a virginity claim.
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