Responsa for Kiddushin 11:3
איבעיא להו מיוחדת לי מהו מיועדת לי מהו עזרתי מהו נגדתי מהו עצורתי מהו צלעתי מהו סגורתי מהו תחתי מהו תפושתי מהו לקוחתי מהו
Our Rabbis taught: [if one declares,] 'Behold, thou art my wife,' 'Behold, thou art my arusah,' 'Behold, thou art acquired to me,' she is betrothed; 'Behold, thou art mine,' 'Behold, thou art under my authority,' 'Thou art tied unto me,' she is betrothed. Then let them all be combined and taught in one clause?<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Instead of stating 'she is betrothed' twice.');"><sup>4</sup></span>
Teshuvot Maharam
Q. Without any previous courting A gave money or presents to Leah saying they were tokens of love. The witnesses testify that A did not speak to Leah about marriage while he gave her the money, and that she did not express her consent.
A. If there are witnesses that A proposed to Leah on a previous occasion and that she accepted his proposal, she is betrothed to A, even though A did not expressly say he was betrothing her. When there are no such witnesses, but both, A and Leah, admit that they had a previous understanding between them, or that at the time A gave the money to Leah they both intended the money to bind them in betrothal, Leah is betrothed to A. Moreover, the mere statement of A to Leah that he gave her the money as a token of love may constitute a betrothal, and therefore, Leah needs a divorce from A before she can marry another.
SOURCES: Cr. 19; Pr. 519–520; Mord. Kid. 521; Tesh. Maim. to Ishut, 4.
A. If there are witnesses that A proposed to Leah on a previous occasion and that she accepted his proposal, she is betrothed to A, even though A did not expressly say he was betrothing her. When there are no such witnesses, but both, A and Leah, admit that they had a previous understanding between them, or that at the time A gave the money to Leah they both intended the money to bind them in betrothal, Leah is betrothed to A. Moreover, the mere statement of A to Leah that he gave her the money as a token of love may constitute a betrothal, and therefore, Leah needs a divorce from A before she can marry another.
SOURCES: Cr. 19; Pr. 519–520; Mord. Kid. 521; Tesh. Maim. to Ishut, 4.
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