Responsa for Yevamot 115:1
לרבי מאיר דאמר קדושין פסלי חופה נמי פסלה לר' אלעזר ור' שמעון דאמרי קדושין לא פסלי חופה נמי לא פסלה
According to R. Meir who holds that the betrothal causes ineligibility, the bridal chamber<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Even in the absence of betrothal. ');"><sup>1</sup></span> also causes ineligibility, while according to R. Eleazar and R. Simeon who maintain that betrothal causes no ineligibility the bridal chamber also causes no ineligibility. But whence [is this proved]? Is it not possible that R. Meir advanced his view only there, in respect of betrothal, whereby <i>kinyan</i> is effected, but not in respect of the bridal chamber whereby no <i>kinyan</i> is effected!<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' The bridal chamber alone without the additional kinyan of money, deed, or cohabitation is of no validity. V. Kid. 5a. ');"><sup>2</sup></span>
Teshuvot Maharam
A. Even if proper forewarning were required before a transgressing woman loses her right to the ketubah, one such warning would be sufficient. Otherwise a woman would be able, without any restraint, continually to cause her husband to sin. For, when forewarned by witnesses, she would temporarily abstain from sin, and, later, return to her mischief. Moreover, any situation that would require the administration of testing-water to a Sotah (a woman suspected of faithlessness), would cause her to lose the right to her ketubah; and the forewarning of a jealous husband, even though preceding by many days the seclusion of his wife with another man, would require the administration of testing-water, as evidenced by the statement of the Baraita (Yeb. 58b): the jealous forewarning of a betrothed would require the administration of testing-water after she married [if she secluded herself with that other man after the marriage took place]. Therefore, a forewarning does not necessarily have to precede a transgression immediately.
The question was again sent to R. Meir: A's wife brought witnesses who testified before us that A also had transgressed the ban. We decided, therefore, that she did not lose the right to her ketubah, since she did not intend to commit a sin. Moreover, a woman must be forewarned immediately before committing a sin in order to be classified as a transgressing woman. The Baraita cited above offers no proof to the contrary since it deals with a case where the sinful seclusion immediately followed the jealous forewarning (i. e. the seclusion took place before the marriage).
A. I still believe that a forewarning does not necessarily have to precede the transgression immediately. Thus Rashi offers two interpretations of the aforementioned Baraita. The first, and most important, interpretation assumes that the seclusion took place after the marriage, and, thus, long after the jealous forewarning. Moreover, the Talmud (Sotah 26a) clearly states that a woman who was jealously forewarned before her marriage and secluded herself with another man after the marriage, must either drink the testing-water or lose the right to her ketubah. However, since A too has transgressed the ban, we must make two distinctions. a) If the wife's sin consisted of merely disregarding the ban, while her act was not sinful in itself, A is not permitted to divorce her; for transgressing a ban causes the death of the transgressor's children, and is, therefore, ground for divorce; but, since A himself transgressed the ban, he can have no objection to a similar act on the part of his wife. b) If A's wife, however, transgressed Mosaic law and Jewish custom, A is permitted to divorce her even against her will; he need not seek the consent of the communities, and he is not required to pay her the ketubah.
SOURCES: Cr. 185; L. 393; Tesh. Maim. to Nashim 16; Rashba I, 864–6; Hag. Asheri Ket. 7, 9. Cf. Isserlein, Pesakim 68.