Responsa for Yevamot 48:12
אמר לך רב הוא הדין דאע"ג דלא אתא אחר ואפסקיה לקלא אי איכא עדים מפקינן אי ליכא עדים לא מפקינן והכי קאמר דאע"ג דאתא אחר ואפסקיה לקלא לכתחלה לא יכנוס
An objection was raised: This<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' That the paramour must divorce her. ');"><sup>41</sup></span> has been said in the case only where she had no children,<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' From the first husband. ');"><sup>42</sup></span> but if she has children<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' From the first husband. ');"><sup>42</sup></span> she must not be divorced.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' A divorce would be regarded as a confirmation of the suspicion, and the children would thereby be tainted as bastards. ');"><sup>43</sup></span>
Teshuvot Maharam
Rabbi Hezekiah b. Jacob, to whom the question was first submitted, ruled that L be forbidden to A.
A. One judge is not at liberty to permit what another has prohibited. Were I present at the time when Rabbi Hezekiah received the query, I would have argued the case with him. A woman is not forbidden to her husband unless either: a) the husband is jealous of a certain man, and warns her against private meetings with this man, and the wife disregards this warning in the presence of witnesses; or b) they actually be found in a position indicative of fornication. But, heavy breathing itself is no indication that illicit sexual intercourse took place. Therefore, I shall wait till Rabbi Hezekiah recuperates from his illness, whereupon I shall discuss this matter with him.
SOURCES: Pr. 98; Am II, 63; Rashba I 832–3; Tesh. Maim. to Ishut, 8; Hag. Mord. Kidd. 549. Cf. Asher, Responsa 32, 11; Weil, Responsa 8; ibid. 88; Israel Bruno, Responsa 5; ibid. 7; Isserlein, Pesakim 222.