פירוש על קידושין 62:4

[Regarding one] such as I: Since I am beloved to my father and precious to my mother - so they do this from me - what should I do?

Since he is a Torah scholar he will be disheartened: If you accept service from him.

R. Ya’akov b. Abahu’s parents honor him by pouring him wine even before he comes home. But can he accept such an honor? Abaye says that he may accept it from his mother, but not his father, for his father is also a Torah scholar. We can sense here the tension between the honor due a person because he is a scholar, and the honor due a person as a parent. R. Ya’akov is a scholar, and thus his parents honor him. But they are his parents, and he should honor them. The solution is that he may indeed accept this honor from them, but only if it does not at the same time dishonor his father as a scholar.