Midrash for Pesachim 97:18
אמר רבי יצחק כל הנהנה מסעודת הרשות לסוף גולה שנא' (עמוס ו, ד) ואוכלים כרים מצאן ועגלים מתוך מרבק וכתיב לכן עתה יגלו בראש גולים:
Said R'Jose to him: I have heard of [both] the feast of betrothal and [that] of espousa gifts. It was taught, R'Simeon said: Every feast which is not in connection with a religious deed, a scholar must derive no enjoyment thereof.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' I.e., must not partake of it.');"><sup>26</sup></span>
Sifrei Devarim
"shall not be seen unto you": Do not see it as being yours, but void it in your heart — whence they ruled: "If one were on his way (on the fourteenth of Nissan) to slaughter his Pesach offering, or to circumcise his son, or to eat the betrothal feast in the house of his father-in-law, and he remembered that he had chametz in his house — if he can return (home) and burn it and return to his mitzvah, he should do so; if not, he should void it in his heart.
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