אמר לה זילי תברי יתהון על רישא דבבא הוה יתיב בבא בן בוטא אבבא וקא דאין דינא אזלת ותברת יתהון על רישיה אמר לה מה הדין דעבדת אמרה ליה כך ציוני בעלי אמר את עשית רצון בעליך המקום יוציא ממך שני בנים כבבא בן בוטא
Said he to them, 'She is fittingly called liklukith, since she is repulsive through her defects'; and so he permitted her [to her husband]. A certain Babylonian went up to the Land of Israel and took a wife [there]. 'Boil me two [cows'] feet,' he ordered, and she boiled him two lentils,<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Misunderstanding his Babylonian pronunciation, and mistaking telafe (feet) for telaf he (lentils) Rashi. Another version: Boil me two (meaning 'some') lentils, and she boiled him (just) two lentils, taking him literally.
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A woman who falls into a relationship with a man who is rough in his manners and his opinions, and who is a wretched, worthless person who lacks all good attributes, should not for this reason diminish his honor in her eyes and hate him in her heart, God forbid. Rather, she should nevertheless be cautious regarding his honor, a good man just as a sinner, a contemptible man just as an honorable man, because the word of the king and ruler of the world is upon her, and "What have you to do with the secrets of God?" (Berachot 10a), for God is the settler of the single ones and the joiner of couples, thus all that is imposed upon her to do, she shall do. What is this similar to? To a man whom the king wishes to honor and makes him the second to the king, and all the nation is required to act with honor towards him even if he is a leper or a zav, and so is this matter. And just as a woman should be cautious with regard to the commandments of niddah, challah, and lighting candles, so should she be cautious with regard to her husband's honor, because such was commanded to her by the king, and her reward will be increased as her actions prove that they are done for their own sake, and she fulfills the decree of the king of the world.
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