Related for Ketubot 129:15
לא צריכא כגון דאורחיה דידיה ולאו אורחה דידה תנא קמא סבר אמר לה כי אזילנא שקילנא להו וכי אתינא מייתינא להו בהדאי ורבי נתן סבר אמרה ליה זימנין דמיתרמי בין השמשות ולא מצית מייתי להו ושקלת להו לדידי ומגנית לי על ארעא:
The statement was necessary only in the case where it was his custom but not her custom. The first Tanna is of the opinion that [her husband] may say to her, “When I go away I take them and when I return I bring them back with me,” while R. Natan holds the opinion that she can tell him, “It might sometimes happen [that you will return] at twilight when you will be unable to bring them and so you will take mine and make me sleep on the ground.”
Tosefta Ketubot
A man who supports his wife through a third party, all of [the measurements of items he has to give her laid out in Mishnah Ketubot 5:8] have to be Italian measures, regardless whether she is a menstruant, sick or waiting for her levir [in other words: it doesn't matter her situation, the measurements are the same]. He has to give her a cup, barrel, pot, jug, lamp and wick. She doesn't get wine because wives of poor men don't drink wine. She doesn't get a mattress because the wives of poor men don't sleep on mattresses.
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