Talmud Bavli
Talmud Bavli

Related for Ketubot 143:16

תניא היה ר"מ אומר כל היודע באשתו שנודרת ואינה מקיימת יחזור וידירנה ידירנה במאי מתקן לה אלא יחזור ויקניטנה כדי שתדור בפניו ויפר לה אמרו לו אין אדם דר עם נחש בכפיפה

It was taught: R. Meir said: Any man who knows that his wife takes vows and does not fulfill them should impose vows upon her again. “Should impose vows upon her [again]”? How would this fix the matter? Rather he should provoke her again in order that she should make her vow in his presence and he would [thus be able to] annul it. They said to him: No one can live with a serpent in the same basket.

Tosefta Demai

[If a man] was trustworthy but his wife was not trustworthy, we may purchase [produce] from him but we may not be guests at his house, and [that is so] even though the [Sages] said, behold, he is like one who dwells with a snake in a wicker basket (i.e., his wife will control what is served and he will not interfere). [If] his wife is trustworthy but he is not trustworthy, we may be guests and his house, but we may not purchase [produce] from them. [If] he is trustworthy and one of his sons is trustworthy, or one of his (male) servants is trustworthy [see Lieberman, ואחד מעבדיו נאמן], or one of his female servants is trustworthy, we purchase [produce] and we eat [their produce at their homes] on their word [that their produce is tithed] and we prepare food for them. [But] during Shevi'it (the seventh year of the agricultural cycle, when fields must lie fallow) as as to Taharot (foods requiring preparation in a state of ritual purity), we are not allowed to do that (i.e., trust them at their word). [Note: Unlike a chaver, one who is "only" trustworthy is only trusted in regards to tithing, but not as to whether produce was grown during Shevi'it, or in matters of Taharot, see, e.g., Dem. 2:2, Dem. 2:3, Dem. 3:4.]
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Tosefta Ketubot

If he made her vow that she give her dish to taste to every man, or that she should fill [buckets] and pour [them] on a rubbish heap, or that she should say to every man things that are private to the couple—he sends her out and pays her ketubah since he did not act with her according to the custom of Moshe and Yisrael. And so too if she goes out with her head uncovered, with her shoulders (sic!, Ehrfurt manuscript has צדדיה over בגדיה) bared, or if she is too proud towards her slaves or her neighbours, if she spins [flax] in the street, if she washes in the bathhouse with every man—she goes out without her ketubah since she did not act with him according to the custom of Moshe and Yisrael. Rabbi Meir (sic!, manuscripts have Rabbi Meir) says: If he knows about her that he causes her to vow but she doesn't fulfil them, he should no longer vow about her. Rabbi Yehudah says: If he knows about her that she does not take out the hallah, he should fix it after her. Which is a kolanit (see Mishnah Ketubot 7:6)? Anyone who talks in her house and her neighbours hear her.
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