Related for Ketubot 95:4
לא צריכא כגון דאורחיה דידיה ולאו אורחה דידה ת"ק סבר כי אמרינן עולה עמו ואינה יורדת עמו הני מילי מחיים אבל לאחר מיתה לא
[The ruling was] necessary only [in a case], for instance, where this was her custom but not his. The first Tanna is of the opinion that the principle that she rises with him but does not go down with him is applied only during her lifetime but not after her death,
Tosefta Ketubot
The additional food is his, but the additional rags are hers. A rich man—she goes up with him; but a poor man—she does not go down with him. A case: For the daughter of Nakdimon ben Gurion, the Hakhamim set up for her 500 golden dinars every day for her perfume fund and she was only waiting for her levir! She even made light of it and said to them: This is what you should give to your daughters! Said Rabbi Lazar bar Rabbi Tzadok: I will see in comfort if I saw (sic! correction based on Ehrfurt manuscript) her gathering barley from underneath the horses' hooves in Akko! I recited about her this verse: "If you did not know you, fairest of women!" (Shir Hashirim 1:8).
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