Responsa for Ketubot 97:3
אלא הרי שמסר האב לשלוחי הבעל או שמסרו שלוחי האב לשלוחי הבעל ונתארמלה בדרך או נתגרשה היאך אני קורא בה בית אביה של זו או בית בעלה של זו אלא לומר לך כיון שיצאה שעה אחת מרשות האב שוב אינו יכול להפר
Rather, where her father had transferred her to the agents of her husband, or where the agents of her father had transferred her to the agents of her husband and, on the way, she became a widow or was divorced what do I say about her? Is she of the house of her father or of the house of her husband? Hence the text tells you that as soon as she has left her father’s authority, even if only for a short while, he may no longer annul her vows.
Teshuvot Maharam
Q. A mother demanded support from her three sons. One son has no money except his salary as teacher. The second son possesses fourteen marks. The third son is rich but does not live in the same town. Who must support the mother?
A. It is the accepted law that children are obligated to support their widowed mother only out of the possessions they inherited from their father, but not out of their own possessions. However, children of means may be forced to support their mother as an act of charity [since a Jew may be forced to give charity to the poor]. Therefore, any son who would himself be thrown upon charity were he forced to support his mother, can not be forced to do so. But those sons who have means should support their mother in proportion to their wealth. These sons, however, cannot be forced to support their mother out of their own money, but can do so out of the money they are usually obliged to give to charity, although they would thus incur the curse of the Rabbis who say: "Cursed be he who feeds his father out of the poor man's tithe" Kid. 32a.
SOURCES: Cr. 198; Pr. 541; Tesh. Maim. to Shoftim, 15; Mordecai Hagadol, p. 197d.
A. It is the accepted law that children are obligated to support their widowed mother only out of the possessions they inherited from their father, but not out of their own possessions. However, children of means may be forced to support their mother as an act of charity [since a Jew may be forced to give charity to the poor]. Therefore, any son who would himself be thrown upon charity were he forced to support his mother, can not be forced to do so. But those sons who have means should support their mother in proportion to their wealth. These sons, however, cannot be forced to support their mother out of their own money, but can do so out of the money they are usually obliged to give to charity, although they would thus incur the curse of the Rabbis who say: "Cursed be he who feeds his father out of the poor man's tithe" Kid. 32a.
SOURCES: Cr. 198; Pr. 541; Tesh. Maim. to Shoftim, 15; Mordecai Hagadol, p. 197d.
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