Talmud Bavli
Talmud Bavli

Tosefta for Bekhorot 60:61

מעשה באשה אחת שנשאת לחבר והיתה קומעת לו תפילין על ידו נשאת לעם הארץ והיתה קושרת לו קשרי מוכס על ידו:

Our Rabbis taught: The wife of an 'am ha-arez who was married to a haber, likewise a daughter of an 'am ha-arez who was married to a haber, and similarly the slave of an 'am ha-arez who was sold to a haber - all of these must first<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Before we can receive them as haberim.');"><sup>30</sup></span> accept the obligations of a haber.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' And although it is stated above that the members of the family are not required to accept the obligations of a haber, the case is different here because when acceptance took place the wife, daughter and slave were not with him and there is, consequently, the fear that earlier habits may still influence their conduct.');"><sup>31</sup></span> But the wife of a haber who was married to an 'am ha-arez, likewise the daughter of a haber who was married to an 'am ha-arez and similarly the slave of a haber who was sold to an 'am ha-arez, need not first accept the obligations of a haber.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' If they return to the sphere of the haber.');"><sup>32</sup></span> R'Simeon B'Eleazar says: Even the latter require first to accept the obligations of a haber. For R'Simeon B'Eleazar reported in the name of R'Meir: It happened with a certain woman who was married to a haber that she fastened the straps of the tefillin [phylacteries] on his hand and when afterwards married to a publican, she knotted the custom seals for him.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' We see therefore that even a wife originally of a haber can alter her habits in a changed environment and the same applies to a slave, etc.');"><sup>33</sup></span>

Tosefta Demai

[With respect to one who] comes to take upon himself [the obligations of a chaver, see Minchat Yitzchak here], if he had always [lit. "from the beginning"] acted modestly, we accept him, and afterwards we teach him [the strictures applicable to the chaverim], and if not (i.e., if he had not always been modest), we teach him first, and afterwards we accept him. [Rabbi Shimon says, either way we accept him first and then we teach him (per the GR"A)], and we lead him (i.e., impart the halachot on him) like so: [First] we accept him regarding "wings" (the ritual washing of hands before eating, see Y. Dem. II.3.7), and after than we accept him regarding "purities" (eating ritually clean food, ibid.). And if [at that point] he said, "I don't take this (i.e., "purities") upon myself, but only "wings," we still accept him. If he takes upon himself "purities" but does not take upon himself "wings," then he is not [considered] trustworthy. How long until we accept him [as a chaver]? Beit Shammai say, 30 days as to [matters of impurity involving] liquids, 12 months as to [the impurity of] clothing. And Beit Hillel say, 30 days for both.
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Tosefta Demai

[With respect to one who] comes to take upon himself [the obligations of a chaver, see Minchat Yitzchak here], if he had always [lit. "from the beginning"] acted modestly, we accept him, and afterwards we teach him [the strictures applicable to the chaverim], and if not (i.e., if he had not always been modest), we teach him first, and afterwards we accept him. [Rabbi Shimon says, either way we accept him first and then we teach him (per the GR"A)], and we lead him (i.e., impart the halachot on him) like so: [First] we accept him regarding "wings" (the ritual washing of hands before eating, see Y. Dem. II.3.7), and after than we accept him regarding "purities" (eating ritually clean food, ibid.). And if [at that point] he said, "I don't take this (i.e., "purities") upon myself, but only "wings," we still accept him. If he takes upon himself "purities" but does not take upon himself "wings," then he is not [considered] trustworthy. How long until we accept him [as a chaver]? Beit Shammai say, 30 days as to [matters of impurity involving] liquids, 12 months as to [the impurity of] clothing. And Beit Hillel say, 30 days for both.
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Tosefta Demai

[With respect to one who] comes to take upon himself [the obligations of a chaver, see Minchat Yitzchak here], if he had always [lit. "from the beginning"] acted modestly, we accept him, and afterwards we teach him [the strictures applicable to the chaverim], and if not (i.e., if he had not always been modest), we teach him first, and afterwards we accept him. [Rabbi Shimon says, either way we accept him first and then we teach him (per the GR"A)], and we lead him (i.e., impart the halachot on him) like so: [First] we accept him regarding "wings" (the ritual washing of hands before eating, see Y. Dem. II.3.7), and after than we accept him regarding "purities" (eating ritually clean food, ibid.). And if [at that point] he said, "I don't take this (i.e., "purities") upon myself, but only "wings," we still accept him. If he takes upon himself "purities" but does not take upon himself "wings," then he is not [considered] trustworthy. How long until we accept him [as a chaver]? Beit Shammai say, 30 days as to [matters of impurity involving] liquids, 12 months as to [the impurity of] clothing. And Beit Hillel say, 30 days for both.
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