Commentary for Kiddushin 62:14

ת"ר איזהו מורא ואיזהו כיבוד מורא לא עומד במקומו ולא יושב במקומו ולא סותר את דבריו ולא מכריעו כיבוד מאכיל ומשקה מלביש ומכסה מכניס ומוציא

Our Rabbis taught: He must honour him in life and must honour him in death.' In life', e.g. , one who is heeded in a place on account of his father should not say: 'Let me go, for my own sake', 'Speed me, for my own sake', or 'Free me, for my own sake', but all 'for my father's sake.' 'In death', e.g. , if one is reporting something heard from his mouth, he should not say: 'Thus did my father say', but, 'Thus said my father, my teacher, for whose resting place may I be an atonement.'<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' [May I make atonement for all the punishment in the Hereafter that may have to come upon him. (Rashi) .]');"><sup>14</sup></span>

Rashi on Kiddushin

One may not stand in his place: In the place designated for his father to stand there, in the council of elders with his colleagues, for counsel.

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Rashi on Kiddushin

And he may not choose sides (lit., determine it): If his father and another Sage were disagreeing about a matter of law, he may not say, "The words of x appear [correct]."

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Daf Shevui to Kiddushin

This baraita outlines the difference between fearing and honoring one’s parents. I think that what the baraita defines as “fear” we would call “honor.” Tipping the scales refers to expressing an opinion that differs with one’s father. [I should note that there are plenty of cases in the Talmud where a rabbi does disagree with his father].
Honoring is essentially helping a parent materially—making sure they have food, drink, clothing and someone to help them when its hard for them to walk.

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