על מנת שיש לו בת או שפחה מגודלת ואין לו או על מנת שאין לו ויש לו על מנת שאין לו בנים ויש לו או על מנת שיש לו ואין לו ובכולם אע"פ שאמרה בלבי היה להתקדש לו אעפ"כ אינה מקודשת וכן היא שהטעתו
etc. Ten kabs of sores descended to the world: nine were taken by swine, etc. Ten kabs of immorality descended to the world: nine were taken by Arabia, etc. Ten kabs of impudence descended to the world: nine were taken by Mesene.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' The island formed by the Euphrates, the Tigris and the Royal Canal.');"><sup>18</sup></span> Ten kabs of gossip descended to the world: nine were taken by women, etc. Ten kabs of drunkenness<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Var. lec, 'blackness'.');"><sup>19</sup></span> descended to the world: nine were taken by Ethiopians, etc. Ten kabs of sleep descended to the world: nine were taken by slaves,<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Cf. B.M. 64b-65a.');"><sup>20</sup></span>
Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
As we learned previously, the word I have translated as “braids hair” might also be translated as “grown up.” While this would change the meaning of the mishnah, in either case we have to interpret that it is not a clear advantage to either have or not have a daughter or maidservant that braids hair or is grown up. Whether it is a benefit would depend if the woman prefers having some extra help over her privacy.
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Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
Having or not having sons may be connected to issues of inheritance or yibbum (levirate marriage). She may want him to have sons (or children in general), so that if he dies she won’t have to undergo yibbum. She may not want him to have sons since those sons will share with her own sons in his inheritance. Again, since we cannot affirm which is preferable, Rabbi Shimon would agree that she is not betrothed.
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Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
There is a general rule in laws of betrothal and other areas of halakhah—thoughts that a person keeps to himself or herself are not legally consequential. Therefore, even if she thinks to herself that she would have agreed to be betrothed to him in any case, she is not betrothed. Had she wanted to be betrothed in any case, she should have responded at the time of betrothal, “I agree to be betrothed to you whether you are a priest or a Levite” etc.
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Daf Shevui to Kiddushin
All of the above rules also apply if she deceives him. For instance, if she says “I am a priest’s daughter” and she is a Levite’s daughter, she is not betrothed.
