Halakhah for Kiddushin 63:8
והא קעבר משום (דברים כ, יט) בל תשחית דעבד ליה בפומבייני ודילמא משום הכי לא רתח דעבד ליה בשעת ריתחיה
- Even so, the matter is humiliating [to the father]. Come and hear: R'Eliezer was asked: How far does the honour of parents [extend]? - Said he: That he should take a purse, throw it in his presence into the sea, and not shame him.<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' Supra 31a. There a different answer is quoted; v. 31b, in the story of R. Tarfon.');"><sup>11</sup></span>
Sefer HaChinukh
To not destroy fruit trees: That we have been prevented from chopping down trees when we besiege a city to distress the people of the city and to sadden their hearts. And about this is it stated (Deuteronomy 20:19), "you may not destroy its tree, etc. and you shall not chop it down." And likewise not to do any damage - such as burning or ripping a garment or breaking a vessel for no reason - entered under this negative commandment And in all of these matters and in all that is similar to them, they, may their memory be blessed, would always say in the Gemara (Kiddushin 32a), "But behold, he is transgressing on account of 'do not destroy.'" And nonetheless we only administer lashes for one that cuts down a fruit tree, since it is explicit in Scripture. But with other destructions, we [only] give him lashes of rebellion (See Mishneh Torah, Laws of Kings and Wars 6:10).
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